I had my first date in over a year last night and am left undecided about the guy. He’s very nice, intelligent, and funny. He was actually interested in me, and I think I spent more time talking than he did. The problem is that I wasn’t sexually attracted to him. Not that I find him unappealing, but I didn’t get that feeling of chemistry. Now I realize that that doesn’t always happen immediately and that those feelings can grow. I respect that opinion (which is why I am going out with him again tomorrow.) At the same time, I was in a relationship where feelings grew from friendship and it caused some problems in the end. Granted, I know people who have had great relationships which grew from friendship but wasn’t there some attraction in the beginning?
I don’t know, to be honest. We’re going out again tomorrow so I guess we’ll see. I don’t know how long to try before pulling the “you’re a really great friend” card. It’s not like I expected the first guy I went on a date with to be my soul mate, and I should be excited that it wasn’t a traumatic experience (as most dating in NYC is.) Yet I want more. It’s probably the stupid romantic in me. You know the one that I deny actually exists 99% of the time? At least I’m putting myself out there and actually trying. That has to count for something, right?